The Difficulty In Finding A Bicycle Touring Partner

June 28, 2008 by

Darren Alff and Ryan Nakashima near the Mexican/American borderWhen planning my 4th long distance bicycle tour down the Mississippi River, I really wanted to find someone to come with me. I had been fortunate enough to have riding partners on my first bicycle tour down the California coastline, but I had been forced to travel alone on the subsequent two tours. That’s why, when I began planning my 4th long distance bicycle tour, I made an extra effort to find a riding partner.

It was 2004 at the time and I was in college. I had a few friends that were interested in joining me on my bike ride, but each of them seemed to have an excuse for as to why they could not join me out on the road.

One of the people I was pursuing as a potential riding partner was my good friend, Ryan Nakashima. Ryan had joined me for the final leg of my bicycle tour down the California coastline in 2001 and he had had a great time, but I had been unable to get him to join me on any of my subsequent tours.

When I approached Ryan about joining me for my ride down the Mississippi River, he said he’d love to come, but felt that he would be unable to make it happen because his parent wanted him to take summer school classes and get a job. I understood where he was coming from, because my parents wanted me to do the same thing, but I wasn’t going to give up on him that easily.

Instead, I decided to write his parents a letter, asking them to consider letting Ryan join my on my bicycle tour down the Mississippi. Here is what I wrote to his parents:

Mr. and Mrs. Nakashima:

The intent of this letter is to persuade you that Ryan should accompany me on part of the bicycle tour I have planned for this upcoming summer. Below are the main reasons that I want Ryan to accompany me on this once in a lifetime adventure.

First of all, I would like some company out there. It can be lonely sometimes and the miles sure go by quicker when you have someone to talk to. I don’t mind traveling alone, but having someone to talk to, to help you out when you are in need, or to push you up that next big hill is always a nice luxury.

Secondly, I want Ryan to come on this trip with me because I want him to experience some of the things that I have been experiencing for the last three years. I was incredibly happy that Ryan could accompany me for that short distance on my first tour down the California coastline, but I think he got cheated out of the real bicycle touring experience. He was riding the streets of Los Angeles for goodness sakes!

First of all, he has seen those streets a million times and the scenery in Southern California is almost non-existent. Secondly, the traffic in So-Cal is just horrendous. He biked in some of the worst conditions I have ever seen on my travels. I biked through some major cities on my last tour up the east coast and nothing was even close to some of the things Ryan and I biked through on that first trip through Southern California. If he can make it through the streets of LA, he can definitely make it down some lonely Mississippi farm roads.

I want Ryan to experience just a small piece of what I have been experiencing these last three years and I feel that the trip I have planned for this summer is a perfect opportunity for Ryan to get out there and experience an entirely new slice of America.

I have included some information about my planned bicycle adventure with this letter. I have included the itinerary, a summary map, a scan of the maps that we will be using to guide our way through the states, an article from Adventure Cycling magazine about why you shouldn’t worry about us making this tour, and also a highlight page of my own which documents just some of the adventures that I have been on in the last three years. I hope that this information will be of some assistance to you. My hope is that this info will make you at least think about possibly sending your son out there to ride with me for a couple days.

I feel that each and every one of the bicycle trips I have ventured on has been life-changing experiences and I would hate to see Ryan miss out on such an opportunity. Please think it over. If you have any questions or concerns, send me an e-mail or give me a call.

I have said it a number of times, to both my parents and to Ryan, but I will say it again. There is no way that in five, ten, twenty or even thirty years that we (Ryan and I) are going to look back and say, “Remember that summer we spent taking summer school classes and working? Wasn’t that great!”

No! In thirty years we will be saying, “Remember that time we rode our bicycles down the Mississippi River? That was one of the best experiences of our lives!”

That’s what I want to be saying! In fact, that’s what I will be saying! I hope that Ryan has the chance to say that as well.

Think it over,

Darren Alff

Despite my best efforts, Ryan was unable to join me on my tour down the Mississippi River. He went to summer school and got a job working for minimum wage. I’m sure that if I asked him today what he did in the summer of 2004 that he would be unable to tell me.

The reason I share this letter with you is because I want you to see just how difficult it can be to find a riding partner for your bicycle tour. You’ll talk to a lot of people who are interested in joining you, but when it comes right down to it, most people are unable or unwilling to make the leap. But you can’t let this stop you! Do what you can to find a riding partner for your tour, but if you are unsuccessful, don’t cancel the ride. Instead, go it alone! You won’t have someone to talk to each day, but the experience you will have once it is all over will be more than worth it.

What kind of experiences have you had in trying to find a riding partner for your bicycle tour(s)? If you were able to find someone to join you, how exactly did that work? If you were unsuccessful in finding a riding partner, did you go it alone? Or cancel the tour?

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Comments

6 Responses to “The Difficulty In Finding A Bicycle Touring Partner”

  1. Bob Morgan on June 29th, 2008 8:03 am

    Hey Darren,

    My Great Divide Mountain Bike Route (GDMBR) trip got shortened this summer due to snow and mud in northern New Mexico and on the passes in Colorado. I’m still plotting and planning to get back out there for at least another 2 – 3 weeks as things dry out.

    So far this year I rode the GDMBR northbound (nobo) a little over 700 miles from the New Mexico-Mexico border at Antelope Wells to Horca, Colorado. I detail my adventures in my blog at: http://www.bikerbobonthegdmbr.com.

    For this trip my wife insisted that I ride with a group. I advertised in the Campanions Wanted section of the Adventure Cycling web site. I received a lot of contacts and ended up riding with several others from around the country.

    Finding compatable riding partners definitely enhances the trip. Especially when riding on seldom traveled Forest Service and BLM roads; they can provide an extra measure of safety too.

    At the same time it is nice to travel alone. We stuck together as a group until Grants, New Mexico but north of Grants I chose to drop back to have more opportunities to photograph and to worry less about daily mileage.

    There were also days when I did not have climbing legs. The GDMBR has about 200,000 vertical feet of climbing over the 2700 miles! The route northbound from Cuba, New Mexico got up in elevation to over 9000 feet and I found that I needed a leg and lung transplant to continue that day. So I stopped. The others went on and I did not see them again for 2 1/2 days.

    From my experience I would say that traveling with others works best when you already know each other and have a stake in each others’ well being. However, from other cycling tours I have found that it often works out well when you meet along the way and discover that you have a similar pace and riding goals.

    I would not fret too much about finding riding companions for a tour. If safety is a concern, then buy a SPOT satellite gps transponder (www.findmespot.com). Since I bought my SPOT my wife is much more comfortable with my solo adventures. With a SPOT you can be electronically Tracked, send out OK or Help messages to select people, or send a 911 satellite message in a real emergency. It then becomes a rescue mission, because they do not have to waste precious time searching for you. If you are able you can keep moving, and they can see that too. If you have a clear view of the sky then the SPOT will send your gps coordinates (to within 10 feet) to whoever you want or need to have that information. Or, if you just want an electronic cookie crumb record of your trip to look at later on Google Earth, then you’ve got it.

    Riding companions? When it works, it is fantastic. When it doesn’t, then don’t force it. Enjoy the ride anyway.

  2. fred zahn on February 16th, 2009 6:11 pm

    I have toured a lot and I go solo. Im 67 so its hard to find riders my age and speed , an older slower rider cant keep up with a young rider how wants to do a 4 week tour in 7 days , it doesnt work.
    go slow enjoy the ride

  3. Josh Foreman on July 6th, 2009 12:45 am

    i have only been on one biking tour so far and my original plan was to go it alone. i was hush hush about it for along time planning and the only clue was that i started riding to get conditioned. but i ended up telling my best friend Nathan who took to the idea immediately and started riding too. he joined me for our first tour from Portland to San Fransisco soon after graduating high school. now he continues to be my riding partner, and we are planning a tour of Europe.

  4. Lynnteer on August 5th, 2009 5:40 pm

    I want to do an independent bike tour to somewhere. I am a 47 yo black female in very good shape. I have done one 400 mile, 8 day tour, and 0ne 150 mile 2 day tour both with camping. I have a Connondale 08 t1, and all the needed equipment. I just can’t seem to find anyone will to accompany me. I’m told this is an unusal thing for a black woman. I love this stuff, and I want to go! If it comes to to it, I guess I will have to brave it alone, but how boring it will be. Any takers??????

  5. Soul Illest on September 22nd, 2009 8:31 am

    I am in training for the ALC and I have been doing some pretty decent rides, my furthest as of yet 120mi , I have been putting it out there to find someone to ride with me and have had a few people let me know they were interested but only one person that has actually joined me. The only problem is he made me realize I am an experienced rider and he was a begginer. I was glad to have him with me but it really slowed my pace. I pace at about 17-20mi on flat and have some trouble on hill climbs because of my equipment, I acutally ride a 21speed Marin Comuter bike but i don’t let that stop me. of course I plan on upgrading but for training purposes this bike is serving me well. I am in the LA area and frequently ride 50-100mi just about every weekend. If anyone is interested in venturing out here in LA and seeing some beauty in the City of Angels I would advise that you contact me and we can set that Up, I went on an awsome run from Sherman Oaks over to Malibu and down the coast to Palos Verdes and back to Sherman Oaks that I would love to take someone on, but I will not cancel any of my rides because no one wants to join unless I was in some extreme climate where you need someone there in case of emergency other then that I am a ridah!
    Soul Illest

  6. ali Kowalsky on March 19th, 2010 8:00 pm

    yes-im in for an independent bike tour somewhere. I am a teacher, with plenty of vacations. Im an avid NYC biker, and have experience cycling around the world. Im 33 SWF, and in very good shape. I have an upcoming vacation, and am looking to do a short trek over about a 7-9 day period. My vacation begins March 27 and ends April 5. I have equipment too, I just need a travel mate Hope this finds you Lynnteer!

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